When we feel broken, lost, or defeated we can feel the idea of turning to God for His guidance and love is unattainable. We feel this way because we have created this sense of unworthiness. The truth is there isn’t a single one of us that deserves God’s Love, but because God’s grace and goodness, a relationship with Him is available to us all!
So why do some of us feel not worthy of God’s love? We feel unworthy because we don’t understand God. We try so hard to understand Him, but He is not of this world. Through our own understanding, we simply cannot comprehend God’s love.
Although God is not of this world, He has given us the ability and tools to better understand why He created us and why we are indeed deserving of His love. Join me in mapping out and understanding why God’s love is available to everyone and where we can start building the foundation to understanding why we feel this way.
“But where can wisdom be found? Where does understanding dwell? No mortal comprehends its worth; it cannot be found in the land of the living.” Job 28:12-13
Why Do I Not Feel Worthy Of God’s Love?
We Don’t Have The Wisdom
We are born into this world with the knowledge of self, but not of God. Thankfully God has equipped the world with wisdom and guidance that we can understand through the use of one book, the Bible.
Through trials, examples, stories, commandments, covenants, promises, and righteous people, God has created a text for all of us to better understand our purpose and our relationship with Him. It gives us the wisdom we all need to thrive not to just survive.
One of the things we must learn in order to better understand God is to fear him. This fear I am referring to is not dangerous or a feeling of a threat, but a reverential fear where we fear God out of respect. Just like a child fears disappointing a parent, we too should fear not obeying God, our Heavenly Father.
Without this reverent fear, we can’t fully grasp the knowledge laid out in the Bible before laying the foundation of fear.“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.” Proverbs 9:10
We Don’t Fully Understand God’s Wisdom
We don’t fully understand God’s wisdom nor do some of us want to. This is because we feel we will become confined or restricted if we let the fear of God dictate our lives that we have grown comfortable with. The reality is that the way God expects us to live is always a much better way of living than how we feel we should be living.
Without the fear of God, there isn’t a reason to continue to obey and trust in Him, so we continue to live life our way. Building a life on an unstable foundation can quickly be felt when life changes in a blink of an eye, yet a foundation built on fearing God is stable and never changing.
There is a reason for that sense of fear that comes over us and it is not to be ignored. Proverbs 1:7 reads, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.” Those of us who take to their own understandings are considered foolish in the eyes of the Lord. A fool can be defined as someone who is unwise, unethical, lacking moral principle, or who tries to obtain wisdom by ignoring God’s word.
Many of us misunderstand intelligence vs. wisdom. They are not interchangeable and one is far more important to God than the other. Intelligence can be described as your ability to comprehend well and can be seen through your achievements, successes, and status. Notice all of these things are of “our world ” and have zero importance to God.
Wisdom can be described as your ability to properly act and can be seen through your daily behavior, interactions with others, and what you truly value. These are all things God is more interested in.
“Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. ” James 3:13
We Are Putting Our Hope In The Wrong Place
We might have turned to God in the past for His love and guidance but something didn’t feel right to us. We reached out and we felt nothing happen. So we create this idea that God isn’t there at all or He isn’t there for you. But that isn’t the case.
When we turn to God, it can’t be for just selfish reasons. Like you prayed you would make more money or because you prayed to get back together with an ex-boyfriend. Having an expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen is the definition of hope and our hope can’t be centered around what we want from this world, our hope must be centered around Christ.“Now this is eternal life: that they know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent.”John 17:3
The reason why we should center our lives around Christ and put our hope in him is that he is the way, the truth, and the life. And because of him and the sacrifice he has made for us, we all one day have the ability to live an eternal life in the presence of God. Without him, that would have never of been possible.
Remember, true wisdom cannot be obtained through solely us within this world but through the word of God from the Heavens above. So when we lay the foundation of the fear of God, gain the wisdom through God’s word, and place our hope in Jesus Christ and a life of eternity with God, we then can see why we are so deserving of God’s amazing love!
Thank you for your above writings. I came to Christ twice in the last 3 months to forgive my sins and save my soul and was bothered with the WHY? I FELT the need to ask Jesus into my heart the 2nd time when He only needs us to do it once. I Don’t feel worthy of his love and forgiveness and feel I am not living the way he wants me to because I haven’t felt “a big hallelullah moment”. Is it only because I dont read the Bible enough?
The truth is none of us deserve forgiveness, that’s why it comes by grace. See Jesus didn’t just give his life on the cross to forgive you but to redeem you from the world. He didn’t die so that we could become super conscious of our sin and live life constantly beating ourselves up and begging for forgiveness. He died to transform you into who you were created to be, who he has known you to be since before He created the world and who you can only be through Him. This transformation isn’t acquired through doing “good” things or reading your bible. Now I’m not saying the bible isn’t important we need to be in the word to grow up in our salvation, but salvation itself isn’t obtained by reading the bible. Salvation comes through believing in Jesus Christ and turning from our sins. I would recommend reading through the Gospel of John and asking God to reveal himself to you. Think about Jesus as you read, who he really was, why he came, and what all of that means for your life. Afterward get alone with Him and prayer and just get real open and honest with Him and offer your life at his feet. He loves you and knows you better than you know yourself, trust in Him and the holy spirit will bring you peace! We will be praying for you!
Nick & Leah
So essentially I feel unworthy because I am wondering from the path, its Gods way of making me stay focused and therefore he will reward me with his love and acceptance thus beginning to feel worthy..
This is such an amazing write up and I needed to hear this.
I grew up where the word was what we lived by every day. My father was a pastor and he taught the ways of Christ. IAnd because my parents love is unconditional, I Know that God’s is also. I Cass ame to know Jesus when I was eight years old. And I still believe that I will see his face when I die. However I’m very depressed and because of past action, have a hard time believing I deserve anything from Him. It’s difficult to feel His love. I have no peace. I appreciate your words, they help, abut I still struggle every day. But one day I know I will be with Him.
Hello Leah, dear sister in Christ,
Thank you so much for sharing your beliefs with us. I truly benefitted from your words and I have hope that I can somehow stop feeling guilty about what Jesus went through to save my soul. I’m grievously sorry for all my sins, past, present and future; sorry that Jesus had to suffer so much because of my weakness to sin. I know Jesus sacrificed Himself to honor and obey our Father, to prove His love for God and for us. HE CHOSE TO DIE RATHER THAN BE SEPARATED FROM US. Just that thought makes me cry; to be loved so much that it hurts. I know God has forgiven me because I believe in the saving grace of His Son. I just don’t understand myself. I need to find the joy and peace in my heart that God offers, just from knowing, loving, believing, and trusting in my Savior, Jesus Christ. I seem to have this awful guilt problem that I can’t get rid of. Thanks for listening. May God bless you for the good works you are doing for Him.
Every day morning and night l ask God to forgive me ,and every day l continue to sin . l’m always angry about something thing or the other manly my anger is directed at my husband the thoughts in my head and the words are out of my mouth before l can stop them . I feel so ashamed that l act like l do and l know that The Lord see everything l do .
I feel that l shouldn’t attend church because l keep sinning .
l don’t feel worthy of His love or His forgiveness because l still continue to sin this way . Every day l’m feeling this tremendous guilt and utter shame.
When we pray to God and repent of our sins, we should not look back on them as if we weren’t forgiven. When you wholeheartedly bring your sins to Jesus’s feet, they are washed away. As for things we ask God for forgiveness from, we may not immediately be removed from continuing those sins. Living as a Christian is referred to as a “walk” not ” race or run”. Those sinful acts will fall away as long as you continue to repent and ask God for forgiveness and ask Him to allow your heart to change. There are things I look back on that I did prior to being saved and asking God to allow them to fall away. Some took some time because they were habits. One of the habits that took months of praying about and allowed God to work through me and refrain me from doing was swearing. I hated it. Anytime a word I would say on a daily basis would come to mind, or begin to come from my mouth I would get so upset with myself. But as time went on, I read more of God’s word and asked God to allow me to speak the way He wanted me to, to allow only fruitful thoughts and come to mind and if things would come to mind that weren’t fruitful, I would stop that thought immediately and repeat a line of scripture. My favorite is ” I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:13 It was simple,to the point and applies to anything I needed to combat that could have come up in my life.The biggest thing in this situation is that you recognize that you do not want to do this behavior anymore and you truly want to change. God sees your heart and knows that this is not what you want to continue to do. So don’t focus on what you have done but fix your eyes on Him, know that He has forgiven you, focus on His word and pray for those habits to fall away. Remain obedient and God will continue to change you! Be blessed and keep in touch <3
Thank you Leah l’ve taken your comments on board and will try my hardest to put them into practice. l’m feeling a lot better knowing that when l repent and ask The Lord in His mercy to forgive me He will .
Thank you I found this interesting I have been a Christian for about 12 years. My Christian family are so amazeing I love them all to bits xx sometimes I feel unworthy of God’s love I dont feel good enough for God I know this may sound daft thanks Janice xx
I know I’m rather late to the party in finding this entry but I honestly do not feel worthy of God’s love or of being loved in general. I can’t even relate to God since I was abused from infancy and often prayed to no avail throughout my childhood and teen years for the abuse to stop. Finding someone in a similar situation in the Bible has proven hopeless. Does God even see someone like me as worthy? Or am I simply out of luck?
I saw your comment and I didn’t want your question to be left unanswered.. I can’t say much right now but what I can say is that you are deserving of God’s love. I have been in the same place you might be right now and it’s difficult. However, this may also be of help for you: https://www.ibelieve.com/health-beauty/6-truths-to-co
Stay safe ~
Thanks for this Message Ma’am.
Thank you for your writting this ; I have been baptised born again at the age of 24 , I’m now 52 and still working out my Salvation with fear and trembling. I have enjoyed your post particularly the comments . I have a few things going on in my life that are not easy and my guilt from sin and being a selfish addict parent in my younger days mostly cripples is unbearable….I believe in my heart God still loves me and has compassion.